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Women's Crisis Center Honors Napa Men

Napa Emergency Women's Services handed out its annual "Men Making NEWS" awards last week, honoring a local veterinarian, an activist for equal rights and two younger men who overcame early obstacles to become peer leaders.

"To be a good man is going against almost everything your DNA is telling you to do," Barry Martin told a ballroom full of Napans Friday afternoon.

"Most of what we want to do as men is counter to the good of people around us," continued Martin.

But, he said, "we're going to evolve and become something better."

Martin made his remarks as master of ceremonies at Friday's "Men Making NEWS" awards luncheon at .

The awards were created by to highlight the contributions of men in our community.

Napa architect David Horobin was the keynote speaker at Friday's luncheon, talking about how his men's group is working to end domestic violence.

"What better cause to unite men than helping stamp out abuse?" Horobin asked. "Why take on anything smaller?" 

After Horobin's speech, Martin introduced the 15 nominees and four award winners.

Young Man of the Year awards went to Andres Cantera and Edgar Gutierrez, who received warm applause.  

Veterinarian Randy Lung and community organizer Ian Stanley of the Napa LGBTQ Project were named NEWS's "Male Role Models of the Year."

As it happened, neither man could attend the lunch: Lung's son accepted the award on his father's behalf, while Stanley submitted a moving acceptance speech by video.

More information about NEWS, from the napanews.org website:

Napa Emergency Women's Services was formed in 1981 when a group of community members realized there was no safe place for women and children to go when they were fleeing abuse at home. Volunteers had been taking battered women and their children into their own homes to protect them, and the need for a safe shelter was clear. Our founders worked in partnership with local leaders to acquire a house where women and children could find safety and support, and begin the process of rebuilding their lives.

Today NEWS has grown into a strong organization with a dedicated group of staff and volunteer domestic violence and sexual assault counselors, providing direct client services as well as shelter 24 hours a day/7 days a week, to approximately 1200 women and children each year. We work on prevention through education and outreach programs.

Support for NEWS comes from many sources. The largest portion of our funding comes from grants from federal, state, and local sources such as the Auction Napa Valley. Our community fundraising events make up part of our budget, and we depend on the generosity of individuals and community groups who support us in our mission.

The NEWS Board of Directors is a group of leaders from a wide cross-section of the Napa community, providing governance and support to help NEWS meet its mission. They give their time, talents, and support to keep NEWS going strong, always guided by the belief that everyone deserves a safe place to call home.

Board of Directors

President:
Sandra Re

Vice President:
Toni Renee "TR" Vierra

Secretary: Danielle Schmitz
Treasurer: Randy Gnagy

Immediate Past President: Cathy D'Angelo Holmes

Members:
Brian Banducci
Rebekah Barr
Diane Bishofberger
Doug Ernst
Jim Gill
Donald Hitchcock, M.D.
Richard Melton
Nancy Mott
Danielle Schmitz
Gail Silverman
Katie Somple
Jennie Thayer

Executive Director: Tracy Lamb

Honorary Board of Directors

Mike Thompson, Congressman
Joan D’Angelo
Kathryn Hall, Ambassador
Rick Jones, Jones Family Vineyards 
Gary Lieberstein, District Attorney
Barbara Nemko, Napa County Superintendent of Schools
Andrea Phelps
Lee Schwab
Kass Simon
Brad Wagenknecht, County Board of Supervisors

If you would like to become a part of the movement to end domestic violence and sexual assault in our community there are many ways to get involved. Become a volunteer, give financial support, attend a NEWS event such as the annual Candle Light Vigil in October, or apply to become a member of the NEWS Board of Directors.

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Cole Armstrong June 12, 2012 at 11:11 PM
Speak for yourself Barry Martin. What a bunch of garbage to say that being a good man is against our DNA. You are part of the problem.
john s. mccullough June 13, 2012 at 06:59 AM
While the organization does obvious good work providing safety and shelter to those in need at traumatic times, I agree with Cole that Barry Martin's remarks were out of line.
Lisa Batto June 13, 2012 at 04:20 PM
I was at this event and Barry's comments were so much more than the quote in the lead of this article. Sincerely, I'm sorry that you were offended by the one statement. Barry's story was very touching to the Men and the Women in the room. This comment you read was enveloped around Men, their primal DNA and their need to be in control. Many men give in to these urges as can be attested to by the existence of Napa Emergency Women's Services. To be a Good Man, you have to overcome this primal DNA and respect everyone, your kids, your wife, your mother, your brothers and your friends. He was talking about not taking your Anger out on those around you. Barry did a wonderful job in relating to the audience, sharing stories of his father and being a father. Thank you Barry!
Karen Calhoun June 13, 2012 at 04:21 PM
Barry Martin's remarks were very moving and very fitting for the occasion. They are a little out of context here. If you had heard everything he said, you would not think they were out of line. Barry did a wonderful job as Master of Ceremonies and the event was heartwarming. Congratulations to the recipients that are making the Napa community a better place and helping to end violence. Thank you for your comments, we really do appreciate your concern about what Barry said, but it really was moving and thought provoking and not negative in any way.
Louisa Hufstader (Editor) June 13, 2012 at 05:31 PM
Blame the context on me, as I wrote the body text as an accompaniment to Karen's detailed captions and Lisa's photographs. But I never thought Barry's words would give offense. Certainly none was intended. His introduction was touching, personal and very much on the mark. (I wish I could have transcribed more of his remarks, but my disability makes it painful to take lengthy notes by hand so I have to limit my desire to write down everything I hear.) Here's what I believe: None of us can help our DNA. There's a reason why more famous soldiers, politicians and business leaders are men than women: When women make life choices that send us into conflict of any kind, we are going against our genetic programming to nurture and preserve. That's what makes these choices especially brave ones, and that's why Barry, keynoter David Horobin and the other men honored last Friday should also be respected for choosing non-violence despite evolutionary forces that over millennia have encouraged males to be the fighters. Let's all evolve together. It's been interesting so far.
Scott Yeager June 13, 2012 at 05:40 PM
"To be a good man is going against almost everything your DNA is telling you to do" There is nothing remotely controversial about that statment at all. It appears it was in the context of "control" and what men do in relation to their perception of losing it.
Scott Yeager June 13, 2012 at 05:44 PM
To feel that his statements are controversial in any way is to ignore history and not look at violent acts made by men as opposed to violent acts made by women. As you said, it's evolution.
Cole Armstrong June 13, 2012 at 11:16 PM
Excuse me, but if you think only men desire control you are delusional. It's a human condition. The Feminist Movement is about control. Parts of it are good and parts of it are bad. In context Barry is still out of line. You really need to educate yourself on the cycle of abuse. If you focus on just men beating women you are not seeing the whole picture. It's a cycle. An abused person, whether it be physical, emotional or sexual will repeat the abuse in any of the three forms of abuse. It will be out of their desire for control of their own life and others. Just like when it wast taken from them. I was abused by a woman, and I have seen men abuse women. It's a cycle. ALL FORMS OF ABUSE need to stop. To put the focus on men like this and say it's our DNA is absolute garbage. Just because men are genetically setup to be physically stronger, does not mean that men are to use that physical advantage against ANYONE. We are to use our physicality to protect and to care for our family, not abuse them. This severely fouled thinking NEEDS to stop or the cycle will continue.
Cole Armstrong June 13, 2012 at 11:26 PM
Oh and I feel I should say that NEWS is an amazing organization. I just wish that people really would stop this man vs. woman thing. It's terrible. Behavior is learned and freewill is also something we humans have. It's called emotional maturity. Stop telling boys not to cry and allow them to deal with their pain and their feelings so they don't grow ignorant to them, and the aggressive nature (the cold militant male stereotype) will subside over generations. There is just so much to this issue. I wish people would broaden their scope and quit creating this battle of the sexes.
john s. mccullough June 14, 2012 at 09:19 PM
I agree with Cole.

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