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Naked Man Reported at Expo

Ben is a good friend of mine and has been for quit a few years now. Ben has been struggling with some personal issues lately. He has made some mistakes in his life lately, he recognizes that he's made some poor choices, and is learning lessons as he struggles to correct the mistakes he has made. John S. Mccullough posted some very judgemental and exaggerated comments on May 19, 2012 at 11:06 am in a discussion about those types of people. My friend Ben is not a creep or pathetic as he so put it, he's just having a difficult time in his life right now. I agree, he should have made better choices and handled things differently, but he didn't and he can't change what's already done. He can only go forward from here. That day at the fairgrounds, Ben was just trying to clean up before he went to work. He was homeless and was doing exactly what many homeless people do as well as myself a time or two in my life to get by. We have to look presentable when we go to work, so how can we make that possible when we are homeless? We find a public bathroom to use to wash up so we don't smell and change our clothes. When I was 17 I had run away to San Francisco and was homeless. Just because we are homeless and on the streets doesn't mean we have to look and smell like the bums sleeping on a piece of cardboard on the sidewalk begging for change to buy alcohol. I went to a bathroom at Pier 39 every morning at 6:00am, before the crowds arrived, and cleaned myself up. I sponged bathed in the sink, put on a clean pair of clothes, then washed the clothes I was wearing in the sink, dried them with the hand dryer on the wall, combed my hair, put on my makeup, cleaned up any mess I may have made, gathered all my things, and left to go start my day. No one knew I was homeless cause I didn't fit the description of what society imagines most homeless people would look like. Ben was simply trying to clean himself up and change his clothes. Granted maybe he should have gone at a time when the least amount of people would be around, ok. He certainly wasn't trying to freak anyone out or cause anyone any problems. As far as John S Mccullough is concerned, Ben is nothing like the picture he painted of his viewpoint of what these types of people are. He stated, "These people often have violent histories and are found to armed with firearms and/or knives." (Ben is not a violent person, he doesn't own or carry a gun, and if he has a knife , it's a pocket knife for use as a tool just like most all other men who carry a pocket knife.) "These people are not harmless. Pathetic? Yes. Need help? Yes. At the expense of our collective safety? No!" (I guess it's true. We fear what we do not understand! By: Wanda Sykes - Stand Up Comedian) " Also, I have several occasions to visit Humboldt County (not what you think...lol) and have had a chance to observe what it's local culture has really spawned, giving me a chance to reflect on the long-term effects of the 60's. There are many pathetic, marginalized souls wandering around, inhabiting the streets and town square areas (Arcadia, for instance). It is filthy, among other things. Lots of multi-generation abuse problems. A sad way of life for many. The Latino population has many connections available for drug use." (He talks about these types of people as if they had mutated into a subhuman species, no longer human beings. Just pathetic, marginalized souls wandering around, inhabiting the streets and town square areas. I'm feel kind of sorry for him. It has to be hard living in such a limited existence such as his and it caps the number of options he has when making a life decision. When you claim to be an expert and have a full understanding of a subhuman class of people. You can't and you wont be taught any different because you have already convinced yourself that you know everything there is to know and there isn't anything new that you could teach them. Therefore, they have limited and capped their learning ability to become any wiser than they already know that they are.
mmdoggie February 25, 2014 at 12:58 PM
Harold, They also have the hope center where they can shower, wash their clothes, get messages, and look for work. Sometimes though going from one job to the next, you don't have time to go all the way down town to do this.
mmdoggie February 25, 2014 at 01:00 PM
Thank you Ray for the pointer. You make a good point.
mmdoggie February 25, 2014 at 01:01 PM
Thank you Kristina. It's nice to hear that sometimes. I appreciate it very much.
mmdoggie February 25, 2014 at 01:25 PM
Unfiltered Steve Simoneau, To answer your question, yes. Lately has been more than 3 years or so. I've known Ben for over 10 years now. Planned copper wire theft? What does that mean? Were you there? I do know about that arrest as well. I know just about all there is to know about my friend. All though I don't approve or condone some of Ben's choices in life, I do understand what he is going through. Each time he makes a mistake, I'm not happy about it, and it doesn't make what he did ok to do. Can you say, you have never made mistakes yourself? I know that I can't. I've done stupid thing and had to face my own consequences for them. I have and moved forward with my life. For some of us though, we don't move forward so easily and sometimes we need to learn the lesson more than once to realize how we can change it permanently. I realize it can be hard to be patient with some people. Especially after seeing them make the same mistake again and again. Knowing that I myself have been there having to learn a lesson more than once and wondering how I ended up down this same path once again, I try to be the friend that I wish I had had back then. I try to be understanding and patient and be there for them to take that 1st step forward. Reassure them that they can make changes in their life. Help them with the strength that they lack to do it on their own. I have my approach and you have yours. You go a head with yours cause it's helping so many people right? It's changing so many lives and making a difference in others? After all, it works for you right? Who knows, your sarcasm and approach maybe exactly what someone needs to hear in order to change. It does take all kinds to make this world go round. I can't possible think that I can reach everyone with my approach and ideas. So, welcome to the team!

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